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10 ways to have a better conversation | Celeste Headlee

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When your job hinges on how well you talk to people, you learn a lot about how to have conversations — and that most of us don't converse very well. Celeste Headlee has worked as a radio host for decades, and she knows the ingredients of a great conversation: Honesty, brevity, clarity and a healthy amount of listening. In this insightful talk, she shares 10 useful rules for having better conversations. "Go out, talk to people, listen to people," she says. "And, most importantly, be prepared to be amazed." TEDTalks is a daily video podcast of the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and much more. Find closed captions and translated subtitles in many languages at http://www.ted.com/translate Follow TED news on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/tednews Like TED on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TED Subscribe to our channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/TEDtalksDirector
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Astha Inoue (23 минуты назад)
'Just 2 people shouting out barely related sentences in the same place' got me off guard lol
Tukaram Ugile (1 день назад)
Very Good Training
Condre Koepfgen (2 дня назад)
very helpful information. Everyone needs to learn how to have better conversations with others. I will watch it again.
The suffering Xcx (2 дня назад)
Why she isn’t our president again?
morgan freeman (4 дня назад)
me: hi how are you nice people: good what about you me: yes
Pixar Filmz (4 дня назад)
not even hello but nice
Ampwich (4 дня назад)
But my whole thing is....if I dont relate myself to their situation, what do I say, then? I cant think of anything
Ampwich (4 дня назад)
what about those of us with destractive brains that cant focusunless eyes are focused on something else?
Philip Buckley (6 дней назад)
too much drama.....
উৎসব পাল (6 дней назад)
Firstly I thought her to be America Ferrera from Ugly Betty/ The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants/The Dry Land.
Vanollo Venturi (6 дней назад)
One of the best Ted talk
Rustin Stardust (8 дней назад)
Definitely one of the better TED Talks. I'm glad I watched this!
Orlando Cruz Lopez (9 дней назад)
Nice
Reincarnation (9 дней назад)
don't put words in the other person's mouth - at 6:15
Michaelah Notlob-Iksrepok (9 дней назад)
Welp, I've still got crippling social anxiety. But at least now I know how to conduct a conversation like a talk show host.
Lauren Van Bever (9 дней назад)
This woman warms my heart. :)
OriginalTharios (10 дней назад)
I'm done talking to the cancerously stupid monkeys on this worthless boulder.
Danisa Gladys (10 дней назад)
Celeste, you are one of my heroes. Thanks for your words.
Nadira Alanamaya (11 дней назад)
👍🏼👍🏼
hal jordan (11 дней назад)
"there is no reason to learn how to show that you are paying attention if you are in fact... paying attention"
Justine Cruz (12 дней назад)
amazing <3
Emma - (12 дней назад)
1. Don't multitask. (4:27) 2. Don't pontificate. (4:50)  3. Use open ended questions. (6:02) 4. Go with the flow. (6:39) 5. If you don't know, say that you don't know. (7:26) 6. Don't equate your experience with their. (7:46)  7. Try not to repeat yourself. (8:26) 8. Stay out of the wits. (8:46) 9. Listen. (9:08) 10. Be brief. (10:29) -Omar Olivares
Andrew T (12 дней назад)
Wow I love this so much. I subconsciously do some of these rules a lot and can be a great listener but boy do I need some work.
Yasper Gockel (13 дней назад)
Awesome talk.
Kevin Fuk (13 дней назад)
Deep conversation=appropriate Small talk=inappropriate
German De Anda (14 дней назад)
AMAZING!
Hung Vu (15 дней назад)
I was surprised about this video
Claude Maximus (15 дней назад)
All Americans love to Monopolize any conversation
QUE BARULHO É ESSE? (15 дней назад)
very good! #QUEbarulhoÉesse
vxenon67 (16 дней назад)
I use to talk a lot as a kid. Now I'm mostly quiet.
NocturnalAnimal (16 дней назад)
this was powerful and awesome, great job (:
Dallas Sukerkin (16 дней назад)
Very interesting and engaging talk ... and proof that actual confidence (not to be confused with a groundless sense of self worth) is very attractive :).
مر يم (16 дней назад)
One of my favourite tedx talks
Kyra Gaunt, Ph.D. (17 дней назад)
A rare great TEDx or TED talk that keeps giving on repeat.
Leonidas (17 дней назад)
Ya, brush your teeth 🦷
The koLoneL (17 дней назад)
I had a conversation with someone believes Jesus is god's son. I couldn't argue he is my boss😅
Lexi Lanai (17 дней назад)
so..when was it not right to choose your friends and your spouse based on what "you believe"???? Off the bat Celeste would not have a calm conversation with me. If I am a Christian, would I marry a satanist???? I don't know any Christian who would! I don't know any satanist who would marry a Christian - sister Mary...we gravitate towards people with like beliefs, and realizing that we "live" in a world with people who have polarizing beliefs - I don't have to friend them or marry them to be civil and live/work with them. She's saying we have to compromise??? Why do we have to "compromise" our values and what we believe just to have a conversation??? If this is a "you better tolerate me or else" videos like it's sounding in the first minute and a half - I'm outta!
An M4A1 (17 дней назад)
This comment section is so wholesome it makes me wanna go donate to a charity
Cal160 (17 дней назад)
Introverts prefer listening to talking.
Nicole Marmol (18 дней назад)
What does she mean by "don't repeat yourself?" Does anyone know or have an example?
ThatOneGuy 1206 (18 дней назад)
I barely even text at all lol I don't like it
jobje Rabbeljee (19 дней назад)
Do I answer my own questions? Naah...
jobje Rabbeljee (19 дней назад)
Here's 2w0 cents 4ur 3¥€L!dz 🦊
Chase Cassius (19 дней назад)
That moment when you're listening and scrolling down in the comments, oof.
the therorist (20 дней назад)
talking and listening were fairy tales of kings and queens......has it worked yet?
Haya Kasmi El Morabit (20 дней назад)
Amazing one!!! I loved it
Evelyne Rouquet (20 дней назад)
Wow, great talk, I adored it :)
Mahsaa Bidbid (21 день назад)
That was really good
Chance Miller (23 дня назад)
Thank you so much, ma'am...I love you and your insights. Chance Rodeo Battlehawk On Facebook.
Optimistic Whovian (24 дня назад)
Most women need to take notice of this, as far as I'm concerned women are no better at doing more than one thing at a time than men they just WANT to do more than one thing at a time but that means they still neglect more than one thing at a time and its rude if theyre on social media conversing so please ladies have the respect to pay proper attention when youre in conversation on media as you would in person.
Jesus Loves (25 дней назад)
👋
Potato Pie (26 дней назад)
Seriously didnt you hear the first rule?? DONT MULTITASK LISTEN WITHOUT READING THE COMMENTS
John Ventura (26 дней назад)
When people do start to listen to others, they should try to avoid DISTRACTIONS such as using their phones and/or having random thoughts & avoid INTERRUPTIONS unless its necessary because it just annoys me when others would do both of these when I am talking to them.
Arv L (27 дней назад)
What would an introvert do...
alicemay35 (27 дней назад)
Really thought this would be interesting but a middle aged person immediately starting off a talk about the reasons why we're having bad conversations by blaming the young using technology is getting really boring. Personally found myself without anyone around me who I connected with even after trying all the things she later suggests and it was only through technology and using it FOR better conversations and connections and learning about people other than those around me or in my bubble - that I became more aware, open and toleratnt of different people.
Cammie Hong (28 дней назад)
I had a question, what if I can be the person like that, but my friend doesn't, I don't feel being care in the conversation or being listened by my friends. and every time our conversation just doesn't make me feel being understood, and the truth is I cannot ask everybody to be a good listener, am I just have to give up the friend?
das van (19 дней назад)
Cammie Hong Yes. Our friends are a reflection of you. Though understand that this is the goal after which you have known a person. You have put effort into tolerating their habits, but have not seen change, nor have they themselves tried being open-minded to you. You are wasting your time with this person that you speak of.
Šhâãķiř Gãřããř Ğălmudug (28 дней назад)
but i want ayoung gril of virgin.
Šhâãķiř Gãřããř Ğălmudug (28 дней назад)
this gril is Comedian so that good aperson.
Newell bate (28 дней назад)
excellent
Great advice. Great lecture.
shemini850 (28 дней назад)
Okay, I send like 3 texts a day.
Lily Pham (29 дней назад)
Thank you! <3
Robert Newkirk (29 дней назад)
outstanding!!!
Steyreon (29 дней назад)
Together you know more than you know alone.
alexis camara en Casas palenque (29 дней назад)
It was a great video
Niranjan Prakash (1 месяц назад)
Thank you for this video, very helpful
Kate Blank (1 месяц назад)
I'm glad other users have summarized, because I turned it off after the third meaningless and unsupported statistic. If you want people to listen to what others say, others have to say something meaningful.
Nermien kh (1 месяц назад)
💙
Cortez A.B. (1 месяц назад)
1:46 😮 I text maybe once a couple days normally.
Cito Bop (1 месяц назад)
I want a relationship to be a give and take, not me doing all the giving all the time and learning about someone else. This is fine at first but they need to show interest in me for a change.
Laurie Jean (1 месяц назад)
Actually there are lots of people with disabilities that make them seem like they're not paying attention when they are, and for these many people learning how to show you're paying attention is crucial.
YourNickIsTaken (1 месяц назад)
It's no about you. - best!
只吃面不喝汤 (1 месяц назад)
我感觉自己的语言能力在退化
Tùng Dương Nguyễn (1 месяц назад)
I love this video <3
Linda Mazur (1 месяц назад)
I'm not a Gabby person ., So I loose intrest real quick when talking to a person if I notice they are not listening to me , they are just waiting to speak . Also very distracting - a thing that some women do ( never had a guy do this yet anyway ) as I'm speaking to someone and looking at them and they are moving their mouths (as if they are mirroring me ) sometimes not even silently , what in the world is that about ?
Luxus Häuser (1 месяц назад)
Would be nice to meet people who can process 500 words per minute listening.
Jasmine Kennedy (1 месяц назад)
ok i really liked this talk, but I also have to recognize she looks exactly like the chaperone from the lizzy maguire movie lmao
George Abdo (1 месяц назад)
Well, to be perfectly honest, in my humble opinion, of course without offending anyone who thinks differently from my point of view, but also by looking into this matter in a different perspective and without being condemning of one's view's and by trying to make it objectified, and by considering each and every one's valid opinion, I honestly believe that I completely forgot what I was going to say. 🤔
Victor Nguyen (1 месяц назад)
I have that one friend who always cuts me off mid-sentence because I am a slow speaker (English is my second language). Most of the time I find that really annoying and every time I'm like "Will you ever even let me finish my sentence?"
HND PROSPEROUS (1 месяц назад)
RULE 1: DON'T MILTITASK. I was watching another video on my phone while watching as well.
Allan Alberts (1 месяц назад)
The whole talking on the fly doesnt really work for me. If i did that in every conversation, it wouldnt be a nice conversation.
SUSEAN MORROW (1 месяц назад)
Love the message and I’m amazed at what I learnt from YOU... Thank You 🙏 You are the change You want to see in the World 🌍
7saany (1 месяц назад)
Great advice. Can I just say... I don't know what your circumstances on this day may have been but I would have loved to have done your hair for this talk.
Timothée Tosti (1 месяц назад)
Thanks ! Very nice talk !
Davinder Kaur (1 месяц назад)
Yupp we shouldn’t be a multitasker because sometimes we stuck in between whole works and couldn’t complete one of them atleast. If we are not good multitasker then dont go for it guys . Rather than that focus on single task and u can give ur good . Then go for other task .
Idris Abdullah (1 месяц назад)
"We are more divided than we ever have been in history". Boy do I have news for you
Brock Flores (1 месяц назад)
So good
Mike O'. (1 месяц назад)
YouTube is feeding me re-runs of old content. This was worth watching again, however.
Francisco Gramajo (1 месяц назад)
"we are more polarized, we are move divided than we ever have been in history" Yeah, what about the civil war? WWII?
Sam Adamsen (1 месяц назад)
10 very good observations, HalleluJaH. Shalom
Genius Mind (1 месяц назад)
For valuable video https://youtu.be/0HhUJ7-Yerc
Lucas Van (1 месяц назад)
I didnt talk to anybody in 4 years of high school........
Kale Andrie (1 месяц назад)
TED: alright so we’re going to mic you really close to your mouth TED talkers:*heavy breathing*
Lyle W (1 месяц назад)
So arrogant and condescending as she scolds others for not listening enough.
Shabbir Umrethwala (1 месяц назад)
Thank you... A very nice speech, alot of things to be learnt from your video. Please do keep up the good work...
yip ann (1 месяц назад)
Yea everyone gonna be listener and he world will be in silence
Shannon Sharma (1 месяц назад)
I am so excited to apply what I’ve just learned . I would always say, “ I just love people!” But in reality , I haven’t. I have not been a good listener . I can now truly love people by showing interest in what they are saying and forget about any distractions that may come in my mind. Thank you for this! May God bless you as you help other people love people the way they should!
Fang Yu Teng (1 месяц назад)
I can't tell how tremendous does this speech influences and moves me, it's just so great and i love it!!!!!
bram duprez (1 месяц назад)
you're fat and not worthy conversing with my insane brainmagiq
bram duprez (1 месяц назад)
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